Jan 9, 2012

Katherine Heigl: 'My Definition of Having It All Has Changed'

"Now when I take a job, I look my daughter in the eye, screw up my courage and try to explain to her that Mommy has to go to work. And when she looks back at me and says, “But why?,” I tell her the truth: that work makes me a better person, a better woman, a better mother. Then I pray to God that she will understand one day and that my example will encourage her to find and follow her bliss as well … after I’ve paid for all the therapy, of course."
Katherine Heigl is a successful actress, mom to three-year-old daughter, Naleigh, and married to songwriter Josh Kelley.  And now she is a blogger, sharing her thoughts on balancing a career and a family on her first blog for the iVillage blog series, CelebVillage.

The actress says she always knew she wanted to be a mom and an actress. And at that young age, Heigl says she imagined 'having it all' was achievable- seamless- if she just buckled down and made it work. That was then, and this is now, and the actress has realized that her definition of having it all has changed, and that it is okay.

When the couple adopted their baby daughter in 2009, Heigl says it wasn't long before she felt that she was struggling and failing in her attempts to 'have it all.'  So the actress cut back on work and stayed home more with Naleigh. But after months of being a full-time mom, Heigl says 'the prospect of going back to work thrilled me, brought my mind and creativity into sharp focus and made me feel that old familiar drive that has inspired me my whole life.'

"I was there and I loved it but when the next job came around I jumped like a fish starving for water.
I asked myself what was wrong with me. How can I want to leave my child to go back to work?

Heigl says she has had to come to terms with the fact that having it all is not seamless - that there will be pangs of guilt and sadness - and that she while she learns to accept that, she must also  find a way to let go of that guilt.

Read Katherine Heigl's complete blog @Village Celebrity Blogs.

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